God made man to be a leader. And the woman to be a helpmate.
Therefore, a woman is meant to be submissive to the leadership of her husband as long as he follows the leadership of Jesus Christ.
Without Christ being at the center, you end up with a power struggle. Where one seeks to control and dominate the other by any means. Causing the relationship to turn toxic.
If a man does not allow himself to be guided by God, then he can’t lead his wife.