We as a people absolutely struggle to forgive. The constant memory of the pain inflicted by another causes us to feel a sort of righteous indignation, where it becomes one of our priorities to never forget. It is hard to forgive, when just the face or any little thing of the person is like a constant reminder. But some say we should forgive, but never forget. But if you do not forget, you will be constantly reminded of the pain, and never actually give yourself some time to heal. That pain can thus turn to malice, hatred to the person. Hardening your heart in subjection to evil. Contemplating evil to come to the individual that slighted you. Unforgiveness has been described according to the saying, drinking poison and expecting the person to die. Many of us has become bitterly sick. All we think and talk about is what other people have done to us. Some choose isolation. Presuming everybody is the same. But everybody is not the same. And by isolation you prevent yourself from meeting beautiful people, who would honestly care about your personal health and well being, respecting your boundaries as a human being and also as an individual.
Consider the our Father prayer, concerning forgiveness. Asking God for forgiveness as we forgive each other. “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.” Also it is written, if we do not forgive others for their transgressions, our Father in heaven will not forgive us for ours. Our judgement can not then be in self righteousness. For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. There is none righteous, no not one. Who are we, who are born into sin and shaped in iniquity? If we have the natural propensity towards evil and a curiosity for it, how can any of us individually judge ourselves incomparison with another, as though we are any better?
God’s forgiveness is to completely let go of our transgressions and remember them no more. We ought to do the same, when an issue occurs with our neighbour. We should first acknowledge what it is we actually feel, bring it before God; and therefore ask Him to give us the power to let them go, and to pray for them according to His word. Love your enemies, do good to them that spitefully use and persecute you.