The man pursuing a woman is not only outdated, but not according to the Biblical blueprint.
The Biblical blueprint as seen in the Bible is God bringing the 2 together to become 1 flesh. For a man could pursue the wrong woman who is not a match. Who is not the one who God wants for him. And this is the problem why most relationships whenever it’s Christian or not end up in divorce. Due to not allowing God to bring the man and the woman together. But the man and woman going out of their own way separately to be wrongly matched with the wrong woman or man. Where it’s not a match that God has for the person.